what is integrative identity coaching?
Integrative identity coaching helps you thrive as a whole person: from your nutrition to your relationships and exercise and career.
We discover who you are and what you need to thrive so you're feeling free and happy in your whole life.
What food works best for you? Can you be more assertive and candid? Want to be a better listener? Need more clarity about your sexuality? Want to kick some habits like smoking or drinking or Rx?
Curious to learn meditation or join a new spiritual community? Want to feel comfortable around people of all identities?
We cover all of this and more.
is work/life balance a myth?
I say no. When you know better habits you can easily avoid burnout. You will have more happiness and a more sustainable business/career life and more overall success in your whole life.
how can you help me understand who I am?
We are all complex beings, made up of many different parts and preferences and perspectives. Every human has blind spots. We all have things we can't see about ourselves that get in our way of good health, more balance and real success. As a coach, I can help you see these things and overcome them so you feel more clear and more confident about your whole life.
what health issues have you overcome?
Anorexia. Acne. Insomnia. GI issues. Gender dysphoria. Depression. Anxiety. Suicidal thoughts. Despair. Grief. Chronic joint pain. Sinus infections. Seasonal and good allergies. Mood swings. Bloating. Weight gain/loss. Headaches. Fatigue. I think that's most if not all of them.
how are you different from a life coach?
My coaching foundation is good nutrition and lifestyle habits as well as self-awareness and self-compassion. If you feel good physically, you feel more able to make changes in your life. I also coach you on listening and time management goals but your health and sense of identity is my main focus.
how did you know you wanted to be a coach?
I initially thought I wanted to be a school counselor. I chose to be a coach instead because the program was shorter and the cost was less. I wasn't 100% sure it was right until I started the program. Then it was like the perfect thing I never knew existed! I did end up getting my Master's degree in behavioral and cultural change a few years later but not because I thought I needed it to be a better coach--I just wanted it. Being a coach was the perfect choice for me because it totally transformed me as a person, first and foremost.
what's the most challenging part of working for yourself?
The biggest challenge is still overcoming the stigma of my trans* identity. Most people think I’m a coach for LGBTQ people but don’t realize that I’m here to help people of all identities know who they are and be themselves.
I’m tenacious and clear and explain that I'm not only here to do diversity & inclusion work. Well, some people still think that but I just tell them what I actually do.
what are coaching sessions like?
You talk. I listen. I ask you questions. We laugh (hopefully, if you think I'm funny). We figure out what you want and need. You might ask me for answers but I won't give them to you. I encourage you toward your own wisdom.
what would you do if you weren't a coach?
That's not an option. Ok, I'd probably be a Buddhist monk.
when is your book coming out?
Good question. Hopefully this summer.
what else do you do?
I sleep a lot. I go for walks. I read. I kayak. I'm a pretty decent cook. I listen to music pretty much every waking hour. I watch movies. I...talk to my friends. I watch birds, but without binoculars so I can't see much. I write. I read. Did I say that twice?
I see you're transgender. Are your clients LGBTQ?
Less than 2% of the thousands of clients I’ve helped are trans or even LGBTQ. I provide integrative identity coaching for people of all identities and most of them are heterosexual, cisgender people.
can you help me become a coach, too?
Absolutely! Check out this information and let's make it happen.